Ingcamango ayinaxabiso ukuba asenzi nto ngayo. Inokuba yinto esebenzayo kakhulu, inguquko kunye nengcamango entsha, kodwa ukuba asikwazi ukusebenza kuyo kwaye, ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, siyisebenzise ngokusebenzisa isicwangciso esichaziweyo, loo ngcamango iya kuncitshiswa kwingcinga. Amaxesha amaninzi siyayeka ukucinga ukuba ngaxa lithile size nombono esingakhange sisebenze kuwo kuba ngelo xesha asikwazanga ukunika ixabiso kuwo kwaye oku kuhambelana ngokusondeleyo nendlela esibonisa ngayo iiprojekthi zethu. kwabanye abantu. Kwintsimi yobungcali bokudala, iprojekthi iyayeka ukuba namathuba xa siyasilela ukukholisa abanye abantu ngexabiso labo okanye ukufaneleka kwabo okanye ukuba sizibeka kwimbono yomamkeli, kuba bebengazi ukuba bayigxininise njani kakuhle. Ngamafutshane, sithetha ngokuthengisa ingqikelelo yethu kubanxulumanisi abanokubakho beprojekthi yexesha elizayo; ukuba siyakufezekisa oku, loo mbono ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuqala ukufumana ixabiso elongezelelweyo. Ekugqibeleni, imalunga nokukhusela ingcamango de ibe nexabiso.
Kodwa kuthengiswa ntoni? Ukuba sibhenela kuso nasiphi na isichazi-magama siya kufumana iinkcazelo ezifanayo kakhulu. Sixelelwa ukuba ukuthengisa kucenga okanye kuphembelela umntu ukuba athenge kwaye kulapho inqaku eliphambili lifunyanwa khona: Ukucenga. Bubugcisa obusenokungaxatyiswa okanye buthathelwe ngqalelo, nokuba ngandlel’ ithile bunzima yaye ayaziwa. Ukucenga kuqhagamshelwe kuzo zombini izixhobo ezinengqiqo kunye nenkqubo yeemvakalelo. Ngandlela-thile bubugcisa obufuna ubuninzi bezakhono zethu zokubonisa izimvo kunye nokuvusa uvelwano lomngeneleli wethu. Enyanisweni, kufuneka ubeke umgudu ongakumbi kwinkqubo yokubonisa ingcamango okanye ingcamango kunokuba ukholelwa. Eyona njongo iphambili asikokufezekisa ukuthengiswa ngokwasemzimbeni okanye komntu ngamnye kuyilo, imveliso okanye into. Into emalunga nayo kukudala intetho okanye intetho ebandakanya umbukeli kwaye idala ikhonkco eliqinileyo kunye nohlobo lwethu kunye nomsebenzi wethu. Inkqubo yonikezelo (zombini izimvo kunye neeprojekthi esele zidityanisiwe okanye iimveliso) ixhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi. Akunjalo ukuphuhlisa intetho ecengayo ngejelo elinye okanye elinye, ngomyili womxholo okanye abadali abaninzi.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unyango lwentetho yethu lubaluleke kakhulu kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo i-psychology kwinkqubo inokuninzi ukuthetha ngayo. Ziziphi izinto esifanele sizigqale xa siphuhlisa intetho yethu eyeyiselayo naxa sinikela iimbono zethu kwabanye abantu?
- Ukulungiselela: Linyathelo lokuqala, kufuneka silungiselele ukuthengiswa (nokuba yengcamango okanye imveliso). Kufuneka siyazi ngawo onke amaxesha kwaye kanye kanye into esiyizisayo nokuba kutheni. Iya kuba yintoni injongo yethu kwaye zeziphi iimpawu ezichaza umbono wethu. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba umntu othetha naye unokukuchasa kwaye ubuze ezinye zeengxoxo zakho, ke kuya kufuneka ukuba uzilungiselele izisombululo, iinkcazo okanye iimpendulo onokuthi uzinike kwimibuzo enokwenzeka.
- Ukunikezelwa: Okwesibini, kufuneka sichaze ngokuthe ngqo nangokucacileyo kangangoko sinakho iingxoxo zethu kunye nezizathu ezixhasa ukuqiqa kwethu. Ngoku kuxa kufuneka sikhusele umbono. Ingxoxo iya kwenzeka, ngokusengqiqweni kuya kufuneka uveze umbono wakho kodwa umntu othetha naye uya kufuna ukuthatha inxaxheba kwincoko, yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uzame ukuqikelela ukuba kuya kuba yintoni na amathandabuzo abo, iingxoxo ezinokubakho. oko kubenza bangasithembi isindululo sakho kwaye bacamngce ngaso ukuze kamva bacacise onke amathandabuzo anokubakho.
- Landela: Yinto edla ngokungahoywa kwaye ayisoloko inento yokwenza nokuhanjiswa kwezinto ezithengisiweyo. Ngokwenene malunga nokunikela ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha kunye neemeko apho ukuthengiswa kwenzeka okanye, kwimeko yombono, ukunikela ingqalelo kwizenzo eziye zaphunyezwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umntu elukuhlwa yingcamango entsha okanye evuma ukuthenga imveliso, badla ngokwenza oko phantsi kweemeko ezithile. Kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba iimeko ozichazileyo ziyafezekiswa kwaye ngale ndlela umxhasi wakho wanelisekile ngokupheleleyo.