Imikhuba engu-8 yokuvuselela ubuhlakani bakho

Kusukela kwavela izilo ezinkulu zobuciko, kube nendikimba ephindaphindwayo nokugxilwe ekuxoxweni ngemibono yomphakathi. Kusukela kuma-theorists anobuqili kakhulu kuya kubasebenza kwezobuciko kunoma yikuphi okwehlukile, umbuzo uhlale uhlala emoyeni futhi ungatholi mpendulo ekholisayo: Ngabe umculi uzalwa noma wenziwe? Ngabe ukhona umuntu ojwayelekile angaba yiMozart ngokwesibonelo uma athola isikhuthazi esithile noma alandela inqubo ethile?

Noma ngabe ucabangani nombono wakho, ngokuqinisekile uyayibona le mikhuba elandelayo njengethonya elihle ekuthuthukiseni izipho zakho zokuzalwa. Kulokhu okuthunyelwe ngithanda ukukwazisa kweminye imizila engakubamba futhi ikusize uthole ugqozi. Empeleni imayelana nokuthi sizenzele ngaphakathi ngokwethu (ezingeni lezengqondo) futhi usenze siqine futhi sikwazi ukubhekana nanoma iyiphi inselelo futhi siveze imibono ethokozisayo.

• Zibuze imibuzo, njalo zama ukugcina ilukuluku liphila ngaphakathi kuwe: Ngeke sikwazi ukuqonda konke okusizungezile futhi kubalulekile ukuthi sikuthathe. Lapho sesikuzwisisile lokhu, uhla olungenamkhawulo lwamathuba, izimfihlakalo nendawo engahloliwe iyavuleka. Njengoba kungakulinga, zama ukubalekela induduzo, kusuka emihlanganweni.

• Uyawazi umhlaba othuthela kuwo? Awusoze wakwazi nhlobo: Lokhu kunjalo kudlulela kubaculi abakhangayo nemisebenzi. Asisoze sabona bonke abaculi abakha umhlaba wethu futhi lokho kumangalisa nje. Ungayeki ukufuna imithombo yokukhuthazwa, izibalo ezikushukumisayo futhi ziphakamise izindlela ezintsha zokubona ubuciko.

• Ukubekezelelana ngumanyolo omuhle kakhulu wemibono emihle. Kwesinye isikhathi ukucabanga kwethu okunengqondo nezingqondo zethu kuyizitha ezimbi kakhulu. Iningi lethu lilandela amaphethini futhi linobandlululo oluthile olubhekiswe kuhlobo oluthile lwabantu, izinkolelo noma izindlela zokuqonda izinto. Ukuhlonza lezi zinkolelo nokuthambekela kokufaka ilebula kuyo yonke into evezwe eduze kwethu kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokukuqeda nokuvula izingqondo zethu kancane.

• Zama ukuhlala uvumelane nendawo okuyo, nemvelo. Igama eliphefumulelwe livela kuMoya, noma yini efanayo, ukuxhumana nomphefumulo wethu, umoya wethu noma umhlaba wethu wangaphakathi uma sikhetha ukukubiza kanjalo. Ezimweni eziningi ukuhamba buthule ngemvelo ngokuthula kwayo nesimo sayo sokucabanga kusiza kakhulu. Ukubheka ngaphakathi akulimazi futhi kuzosisiza ukuthi sakhe imisebenzi yangempela ngokushaja okungokomzwelo okukholekayo.

• Faka kungobo yomlando, ugcine futhi udale uhlu lwakho lwezimangaliso: Uzothola imisebenzi, abaculi, imishwana, imibono, iziphakamiso, abantu ababonakala njengomthombo wobuhle noma ugqozi. Zama ukufaka kungobo yomlando bese ugcina zonke lezi zinto eziphakamisa okuthile kuwe. Uhlobo lwejenali yokudala ongaphendukela kulo ngokwazi ukuthi uzothola imbewu encane ukukusiza ukuthi wakhe amaphrojekthi amasha.

• UJanic wacabanga: Iqukethe inqubo yokwakha noma yokubona imiqondo emisha futhi isebenza ngokuhlangana kwezinto eziphikisanayo. Uma sihlanganisa izinombolo eziphikisanayo noma ezingahlobene nakancane futhi sikuguqule, singathola umqondo onamandla futhi onamandla.

• Zama ukuhamba phakathi kokuqhathanisa, ucebise imvelo yakho yezenhlalo bese uyigcwalisa ngokuhlukahluka. Kukhona into ebizwa nge-comfort zone. Njengoba igama layo liphakamisa, likhululekile kakhulu, kepha linomkhawulo. Ngokuhlala sikhonjwe ngamajuba endaweni noma enqubweni ejwayelekile, siphuthelwa izinto eziningi, senza umhlaba wethu ube mncane, futhi siba mpofu kakhulu njengabasunguli.

• Utopia? Sula lowo mqondo engqondweni yakho manje. Vele kufanele usebenzele ukuzithiba. Ikakhulukazi lapho kusetshenzwa ngamasu noma ukuzivocavoca njengokucabangisisa ngezinto kukhona ukuthambekela kokuthi abantu abangama-90% bagcine imibono yabo ngoba ngokuzumayo babonakala "bengasile" noma becabanga ukuthi abanye bazobatshela ukuthi "kuyisiphukuphuku". Zama ukuzethemba wena nezindlela zakho. Lokhu kuyisisekelo.